Couples at the Crossroads
Couples Therapy • Discernment Counseling • Marriage Foundations • Hawaiʻi Retreats
When you’re deciding whether—and how—to move forward together
Licensed in Hawaiʻi, Utah, and Oklahoma
A Grounded Approach
Mixed agendas, sexual desire, faith, values, and politics
This is couples work with a backbone: we get clear fast, go where it matters, and build changes that hold up in real life.
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Break the Patterns
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Do the Deep Work
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Make it Last
My Core Offerings
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Couple Therapy
ONLINE WEEKLY
1-hour sessions for couples who want structured, research-informed help with conflict, distance, trust, sex, or major life transitions. Guided by the most transformational models of couples therapy. -
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Discernment Counseling
UP TO 5 SESSIONS
Short-term, decision-focused work for couples on the brink—when one or both of you are unsure whether to stay together and need help gaining clarity about the future. We begin with a 2-hour session, followed by up to four 90-minute sessions. -
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Early Marriage Foundations
4-SESSION SYMBIS PACKAGE
A structured series for engaged or newly married couples who want to start strong around money, family, faith, sex, and values. Includes the Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts (SYMBIS) assessment and educational package. -
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Hawaiʻi Couples Intensives
3 DAYS IN HONOLULU
Three hour morning sessions across three days for couples who want deep work and real traction—plus a 90-minute pre-intensive online session, guided between-session integration, and a 90-minute follow-up online session after you return home.
Start Here: Complimentary Consultation
If you’re feeling overwhelmed or unsure where to start, this brief call is a simple first step. We’ll get a clear snapshot of what’s going on, what feels most urgent, and what you’re hoping will change. I’ll ask a few focused questions, reflect back the pattern I’m hearing, and recommend a next step. No pressure—just clarity and direction, so you know what to do next.
About Nathan
Dr. Nathan R. Hardy is a Honolulu-based Marriage and Family Therapist and Professor at the University of Hawaiʻi at Mānoa who helps couples in high-stakes seasons—serious conflict, emotional distance, trust rupture, or difficult decisions about the future. He’s the Editor-in-Chief of the Journal of Couple & Relationship Therapy, and his approach is structured and research-informed—helping couples slow the spiral, change the pattern, and move forward with clarity.
Contact Me
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